Why is susan pissed at me?

[litch]

I'm not really sure why she is mad at me, it all seemed to start when she came across this line "16.~What would you do if newblksusan just professed their undying love for you? run screaming for my "space"" from this entry she sent me text messages talking about how hurt she was to read that. But when I suggested that in another post she went ballistic and accused me of projecting my shit on her and telling lies. The telling lies thing is the most common refrain in her tirades and I have not lied about anything as far as I can tell.

The only thing I can think of is that she felt I was "leading her on" but I had tried to be very clear and upfront that I was not comfortable with establishing a particularly emotionally intimate relationship with her. I like her, she's smart and opinionated and interested in a number of the same things I am. We have great sex and I like talking with her. But the thought of an intense emotional involvement, with anyone, right now makes me want to run for the hills. She understood that, she agreed, she talked about how she was Miss Independent and was focused on her classes and getting her Ph.D.

I was going to wait for her to calm down a bit and then try and talk to her and find out what was wrong but she's not calming down, she is commenting to my messages criticizing my taste in stories, isulting me, and generally ragging on me so I blocked her. She's also been sending me text messages insulting and harangiuing me so I blocked those as well.

I'm sad our relationship went to crap over nothing but I am not interested in enduring her rage. Obviuosly she made a mistake in investing the time she did in me, I hope she can get over it quickly and painlessly.

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And I'm also tired of it (excuses and failure 2 take responsibility for ones hurtful actions)

[(Anonymous)]

Seriously: I am just now reading post and am shocked that you were, well, so clueless as to why I was so upset and why, indeed, I had ever right to my rage (which as since evaporated just as Giuseppe T. told me it might --- if I "vented" and released so as to alleviate the source of my pain and frustration.
Litch: something IS wrong if you can do things like what you did to me and truly muse here in front of everyone, as if scratching your head, "Gee, wonder why Susan's so upset [that I promoted a lie and a misrepresentation of her. . .] Hmmmmm. . ."
If nothing else, I'm really delighted that no one out there posted anything to your post, which makes me wonder if everyone who read the post and saw what you had posted about on Sunday also found it unncessarily hurtful just for them to SEE IT and READ IT, let alone to see you wondering how and why it could have hurt and offended me.
But this post, again, reveals much. Ultimately, it reveals to me that you are far more insensitive to the feelings of others than I ever could have imagined. I do wonder if your "friends" on LJ reached the same conclusion and have thus maintained an interesting "silence" (compared to how usually talkative folks are as it relates to your entries) to your post as a result.
Litch: something's not right and the problem is not with me, Susan E. Howard.
I may have an anger management problem of sorts, but even my brother, who knows me far better than you ever will, will tell anyone the following about me:
"Where her fuse is lit, there WILL be an explosion. The only question is when and where the explosion will occur." Yes, Cozey (and that is my brother's real name) has been quoted as saying that and I do believe he most accurate with that assessment of his little, baby sister.
But I'm calm now and frankly had no idea you even wanted to talk to me since you never made an attempt to answer the phone (to which I just would say to myself, "He's such a Chickenshit!" Sorry, but I felt there was no way to determine your character beyond that. You have to remember, if anyone has anything to say to me, I don't care what it is, I'm the type of chick who will literally, outstretch my arm and beckon the person toward me with my finger as if to say, "BRING IT ON, BABY!"
Now, when I do that and say, "HIT ME WITH YOUR BEST SHOT!" now you really have to worry. That means I'm geared up for a real rough and tumble physical fight. I will say this much: being a survivor of domestic abuse did, indeed, teach me HOW TO FIGHT BACK! After all awhile, something "snaps" and you just get sick of the abuse to where, yeah, you realize that cast iron skillet can sure nuf be used as a good weapon. . .
See the movie, "Burning Bed" starring Farrah Fawcett in one of her greatest roles (next to "Extremities") if you don't understand that.
In conclusion, I'm no longer mad at you because I am confident I, myself, "cleared my name" so to speak as a result of your having posted something that you should have never, ever posted if you truly cared about my feelings.
So if you were waiting for me to be calm, rest assured: I've been calm and very, very happy all day long. I'm not about to let you or anyone else, for that matter, "steal my joy." Word.

Re: And I'm also tired of it (excuses and failure 2 take responsibility for ones hurtful actions)

[ieuleron.livejournal.com]

"Where her fuse is lit, there WILL be an explosion. The only question is when and where the explosion will occur."

Have you considered that this indicates a bad problem is present? This quote is only a description of an anger management problem, not some sort of excuse for it as you seem to be implying.

What it is that was posted which led to your explosion... I'm guessing it is no longer posted. This is unusual, but I'm not going to assume the alternative that you're insane.

Being a survivor of domestic abuse does indeed teach you how to fight back. Unfortunately, it also leads you to explosive responses where they are not warranted or required. I'm still trying to figure out how to temper my responses to the level they are required at, now at more than three years since my escape. The idea of having any sort of relationship with another person terrifies me because of this lasting scar.

Dude: review yr psych textbooks re "emotional & psychological abuse"

[(Anonymous)]

Litch: Now I'm starting to scratch my head, again about this post I've just seen (if you think that I read all your posts, you've got to be kidding. . .especially when I'm teachin FIVE classes, including four that are, literally back to back on Tues and Thur, you think I have time to check in and see what you have to say? So sorry, but I always put my job and, especially my students before some live journal or whatever type of blog. . .
But please be aware of the following: psychological and emotional abuse is just as hurtful and damaging as physical abuse.
So, for the record: I have, now, had experience with two men who were born on August 3. Both had the first names of "Robert". Both treated me like shit without my ever having done anything to warrant the "blow" (again whether it was psychological, emotional or physical.).
Now YOU "go figure" or better yet: DO THE MATH!
And ask yourself, especially as someone who identifies himself as pagan:
Do you not think the UNIVERSE was, indeed, SENDING ME A MESSAGE ABOUT YOU (the minute I found out your real name and linked that and your birthday with my ex, Robert M.?).
Remember: nothing is a coincidence. And you must learn to take full responsibility for your choices, behaviors and the consequences that come from them. That may be one of the only way you can maintain friendships with anyone, including me.
Gotta go. Am late for the gym.